You do not have to look very far to learn how to be happy. In fact, there are no expensive workshops or courses to take, or books that you need to read. You do not even need to sit in meditation to gain great insights. Well, if you are seeking for happiness, then notice who around you seems to be happy all day? That’s right – kids!
Laughter is a natural thing with kids. If you spend some time playing with them, it is easy to get infected with their happy smiles. While there are moments that kids get upset, you find that you can learn a thing or two from them about forgetting their anger just as quickly. It is also possible that you start to remember a time when you used to be a kid and how life seemed so easy and without worries.
If you are happy for other people, you simply get to be happy more often. We are all in each others faces these days. Whether it be Instagram or blogs or Facebook, I’m aware of awards, scholarships, book contracts, mission calls, engagements and prizes. I love hearing about the successes of my friends and neighbors. Peak-performance expert Tony Robbins recommends deep breathing as part of his Ten-Day Challenge. Three times a day you take 10 “ power breaths ” using a ratio of 1-4-2. For instance, if you inhale for 6 seconds, you will hold for 24 seconds, and exhale for 12 seconds. The best medicine for a happy Thursday is laughter; have a giggle with colleagues or listen to your favourite comedy show. Laughing has wide-ranging benefits, improving cardiovascular health.
If anything, here are 7 ways that you can learn from kids on how to happy:
- Living in the present
Kids have a wonderful way of living one moment at a time. Their feelings are often based on events as they happen. They are mostly joyful. At times, they may feel negative and this usually happens in a fight over toys or games. However, as soon as they get distracted with something new, they no longer hold on to their negative emotions. Instead, they are happy once again.As adults, we tend to remain angry or upset even way after the event. We are experts in accumulating anger in an internal storehouse. Our minds get stuck a lot in the past. We do not live in the present moment as it is now. It is hard to be happy when we have no present moment awareness.
- Single Focus While Doing Things
When a child is playing a tag, he is playing tag. He is not playing tag and thinking about the picture he will draw later and the block castle he will build tomorrow morning. He is single focused.
As adults, we get stressed because we pile on many things into a single moment. We overwhelm ourselves with our “to do” list. Unfortunately, in trying to multi-task, our mind gets detracted from being present in each task. We end up rushing through time. There is no space for slowing down, let alone breathe. At the very worst, with so many things to do, we end up not accomplishing much.
So, if you find it hard to cope, slow down a little. Be single focused in the things that needs to be done first. After you finish, then move on to the next down your list. You find life more of a breeze, when you can reduce the number of things you need to do at any one point in time.
- Use of Imagination
Kids are always using their imagination, whether they are playing a game or drawing a picture. They love pretend play and are intrigued by stories about magic, dreams and what seems humanly impossible. If you think about it, imagination is the seed of the feeling of joy. When you indulge in your dreams, endorphins are released, giving you a nice warm sensation.
It is funny that how as adults we have forgotten about using our imagination. School has trained us to be more left-brained and analytical. We also become more rigid in the way we do things and our expectations. Then, when events do not happen according to plan, we become very unhappy. We are less open to new possibilities, because we have lost our sense of imagination.
- The future is limitless
To many kids, everything in life is possible. The sky is the limit and they have their whole lives ahead of them. There is no reason for them to feel as if time is working against them.
Well, you can adopt the very same attitude and not be held hostage by time considerations. It is never too late. If there is something you have been waiting to do with your life, then go for it. The last you want would be a life of regret. Joy escapes you when you allow life to become stale.
- Always Joyful
Children are always happy because they find joy in little things. They get excited when they see a butterfly, jump over a puddle or get to go to McDonalds. They do not over analyze situations and do not assume the worst in people or situations. They keep things simple.
To remind yourself about being joyful, keep a gratitude journal. List down the many blessings that you currently enjoy in your life. Additionally, on a regular basis, do something small that makes you happy like reading one chapter of a book you like or taking a walk in the park.
- Inherent Goodness and Trust in Others
Children have an inherent goodness about them. They do not intend to hurt anyone and they do not naturally think that anyone would want to hurt them. With no such ill intent or worries, it is easy to be just happy all day!
Imagine what the world would be like if everyone could play and work nicely together. Adults should learn from kids to put aside their differences and care for each other. Love creates happiness.
- Absolute Faith In Getting Their Wishes Fulfilled
It is amazing how kids can have so much faith that their wishes will be granted. Ever get badgered by your kids until you “cave” in to give them what they want? Believe me; it is not easy to stay firm when you are up against their cheeky smiles.
Another example I can think of is about the wishes of my kids to see the world. They talk about their travel plans all the time. There was never a shred of doubt that their wishes will be granted one day.
Do we hold as much faith in our own dreams? Probably not. We are too encumbered by unnecessary worries. We limit ourselves by our beliefs. If things are not working in our favor, we may even choose to give up half way and ditch our dreams.
In conclusion, to be happy, reconnect with the inner child in you. Be around kids if it helps. If you do not have any, check out your local playground. Better yet, volunteer some time at a Children’s Orphanage. Bring out the imaginative, joyful, and trusting qualities in you. By becoming more child-like, you are well on your way to becoming less of a stress bag.
-Evelyn
Teens are usually under a lot of pressure these days.
And it’s easy for the stresses of everyday life to erode their self-confidence. They often have to deal with unrealistic expectations set for them, thoughtless comments and conflicting messages.
But they can counter it – with self-love affirmations for teens.
Everyone can benefit from a healthy dose of self-love every day, but for a teen, it might be even more beneficial.
Through excellent self-care, being true to your values, and using affirmations for teen self-esteem, you can create the self-talk that helps you cope with difficult situations and challenging behaviors of others.
So, we’ve put together a list of 50 affirmations for teens to offer a powerful self-confidence boost.
What Is A Positive Affirmation?
Positive affirmations are positive thoughts and statements that we tell ourselves to raise our self-esteem and boost our confidence.
These statements are affirmative, uplifting, and often offer a concrete declaration of how we wish to view the world, ourselves, or our circumstances.
Using positive affirmations can build a circle of positive energy and attract positive outcomes. The trick is in finding the positive affirmation that works best for you.
How do you write a positive affirmation?
Looking to create your own positive affirmation? Great idea!
Here are a few tips to help get you started:
- Identify negative beliefs. What beliefs do you have that are currently holding you back? See if you can identify any recurring negative thoughts or beliefs and write them down.
- Challenge the negative beliefs. Next, challenge the negative beliefs you’ve identified by writing down something that counteracts the negative belief. This will be the foundation of your new affirmation.
- Write in the present tense. Make your affirmation positive, in the present tense, and in the first person.
- Keep it short. The shorter and more concise your affirmation is, the more powerful it will be.
- Give it impact. An effective affirmation is impactful. Fill it with positive, beautiful language that inspires you.
What are the best affirmations?
There are many, many different types of affirmations. But time and again, we encounter affirmations that include the following:
- I can
- I will
- I’m my own superhero
- I am purpose and love
- I’m in charge of how I feel, and I choose to be happy today
The list is literally endless. But you get the point.
So, how do we put these affirmations to use?
How To Use Affirmations
Just like negative self-talk, positive affirmations “stick” with repetition.
Choose up to three self esteem affirmations at a time and customize them to your personal life circumstances.
The best times to use positive affirmation are at the beginning and end of your day. Try repeating your affirmations before you get out of bed in the morning, or while you’re brushing your teeth at night.
As long as you repeat your affirmations at the same time each day, they’ll soon become habit.
How many times should you repeat your affirmations? As many times as you like! But keep this in mind: quality over quantity.
If you just mindlessly repeat your affirmation without stopping to really dwell on what it is you’re saying, they won’t be nearly as effective.
Instead, say each affirmation slowly and with intention. Think about what the affirmation means and let the positive emotions fill you up like a balloon.
Soon enough, the affirmations will begin to take hold in your life.
And the results will amaze you.
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50 Affirmations For Teen Self Esteem
So, without further ado, here are 50 affirmations for teens:
1. The more I like myself, the more others will like me.
3. I am happy to be here.
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4. I have people who care about me and will help me if I need it.
6. I am always learning more about who I am and what matters to me.
7. I understand that my actions become habits so I will try to do the right thing.
8. I love and respect my family for all they do for me.
9. I am an intelligent being, but I don’t know everything.
10. I am proud to represent the values that matter to me and my community.
12. I feel lucky to have the opportunities that I do.
14. The only people who may be judging me, are the people who are most afraid of being judged.
15. In 5 years it is not going to matter what I wore today.
16. In 15 years the only thing that will remain is what I have learned.
17. My first love will probably not be my only love, and I’m ok with that.
18. People can be mean, but it only reflects the kind of person they are.
20. I accept and love the way I look without comparing myself to others.
21. A six-pack does not need to be standard. In either form.
22. I am completely unique and therefore, there are no rules to what I am and am not.
23. I give myself permission to do what is best for me.
24. I admit that I may not always know what is best for me, so I am open to advice from people who I respect.
25. I do not need drugs or alcohol to have fun.
26. I do not need to share every personal detail with my entire social network.
28. My opinion matters.
29. I acknowledge that sometimes it is not appropriate to voice my opinion.
31. I can say no, and no will mean no.
33. I love myself unconditionally.
34. I see the beauty in stopping to appreciate my blessings.
36. Reputation is important, but it is not defining.
38. I am not lost, I’m still creating myself.
39. When there is a bump in the road, I keep going.
40. If someone is trying to bring me down, it means I am above them.
42. Though times may be difficult, they will eventually get better.
43. I do not regret yesterday and I am excited for tomorrow.
45. I will do better next time.
47. I will savor my youth.
48. I do not wish for age but instead experiences and knowledge.
49. I will do today what I will appreciate tomorrow.
50. I begin my day by affirming the positive and end my day with gratitude.
Which of these affirmations for teens was your favorite?
The Power of ‘I’m Enough’
If you’ve ever doubted yourself, you know how crippling it can be.
The missed opportunities, the indecision, the quiet torment – it stops us from living our best lives.
But self-doubt is really just a subconscious belief caused by childhood trauma. If we change our beliefs, we can shed self-doubt and develop self-confidence instead.
Legendary transformational hypnotherapist, Marisa Peer, shares three powerful words that can challenge and erase self-doubt,
I Am Enough.
These powerful words have completely changed the lives of many people from the Mindvalley tribe. Her words helped them develop the confidence and courage to go after what they truly want from life.
And it can do the same for you too.
If you’re ready to eradicate self-doubt and develop the unshakeable confidence to live your best life, then join this Free Masterclass with UK’s #1 Therapist, Marisa Peer, where you’ll learn:
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